Online Dating can certainly be classed as a minefield, which can leave even the most level headed person questioning another’s motives. With the start of a friendship or relationship based entirely on looks and then moving onto messages it is clear that intentions may be misconstrued.
Honesty is something that most people take for granted and especially when messaging someone online it is very easy to hide behind a computer screen and ever so slightly manipulate the truth. Whether it be a 10 year old profile picture or not mentioning an important factor in a profile. Upon meeting, the person you meet may feel cheated that you could not be honest with them from the outset and may question whether a relationship can continue.
When it comes to arranging a first date and you find yourself unable to attend make sure you give the other person plenty of notice and try to give an alternative date or time. This makes it look like a genuine change of plans and will leave the other party happy that you are busy, yet do wish to re-arrange. Try to always consider the feelings of the person you wish to meet and be honest from the outset. If you are re-arranging due to simply changing your mind, then be clear and mention that you are sorry but do not feel it is right to meet and wish them well. This leaves no doubt that there is no reason to pursue meeting and allows both parties to continue with their online dating search whilst remaining dignified. No-one particularly likes rejection, especially before you have even met, so be honest about your feelings and you will find yourself earning respect.
