Picture the scene, a profile on a dating site has caught your attention or you are already conversing with a potential love interest and may have moved to the next step of texting.
When it comes to writing a witty, well thought out and constructed message you may find yourself affording more time to compiling a masterpiece than you first expected. You may even squint through one eye and turn your head sideways when reading and re-reading the messages, just to ensure that nothing can be misconstrued, thus ending your chances at a possible relationship.
An article in the Daily Mail states that research conducted by TSB Magazine, a dating advice website for men saw 32% of all men questioned vote that texting was their number 1 issue with dating.
It is widely known that women are very hard to impress with words, so it is no great shock that men are intimidated by sending messages whether online or via text. To maintain interest and possibly start a new relationship it is seen that you should at least make an effort to impress the message recipient.
As women do we expect too much and are men really that lax when it comes to communication? Well if men really do worry about writing messages, it would certainly account for why men seem to have a distinct lack of courtesy when it comes to communication in general. Could it really be that they just do not know what to say?
With the rise in popularity of online dating, making a lasting impression with one image and two lines of blurb is imperative and quite a daunting task. Personally I am terrible and most definitely contribute to why men should be worried about messaging! A mis-spelt word or missing punctuation, even the use of text speak and I will not even entertain a profile by clicking on it. It begs the question how much notice do men pay to what women actually write in their profiles?
A top tip I have for sending the first message on a dating site is to thoroughly read the intended’s profile. Pick out a common interest to mention or possibly a unique quality. Make it cheeky and friendly but without being overly flirty, especially if you do not wish to give the wrong first impression – they count you know! Receiving a message whereby you can clearly ascertain that the sender has read your profile and messaged you due to that as opposed to your profile picture is a huge compliment and the likelihood of a reply is much greater.
Just try not to put too much emphasis on writing a message nor worry about it too much, your anxiety will be apparent in the message and it will not read as it should. Definitely re-read your message before you send just to ensure there are no mistakes, as there is nothing worse than a witty masterpiece being ignored simply due to a grammatical error. Men take note!